Condoms Don’t Make Men Lose Their Erection

By Matty Silver, Sex Therapist on February 24, 2016 in Other

It’s amazing how often men tell me they don’t use a condom because they think it makes them lose their erection. At the same time it’s scary that so many women don’t insist their partners use one, especially in a new relationship. Some women who are on the pill mistakenly believe they don’t need to use a condom, but it’s not just about preventing an accidental pregnancy. The danger, especially these days, is the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Some men believe a condom is a barrier to their pleasure, but if a condom is used properly such concerns are unwarranted. For men who are not used to a condom, especially young men, it’s a good idea to start by incorporating a condom into the way you masturbate. This will give you practice and familiarise you with putting it on quickly and correctly. Sexual stimulation feels quite different with a condom on compared to not wearing one, and you may find it helps to get used to this sensation, turning it into a very pleasurable experience rather than a barrier.

When lubricated correctly, internally and externally, a condom can enhance the masturbation experience. It’s also important to make sure you have the right size of condom, so try some out until you find the right fit.

The main catalyst to losing an erection for many men is the anxiety triggered by putting a condom on. During the excitement of having sex, especially with a new partner, it’s easy to get distracted and lose arousal. When this happens it can be helpful for the partner to put the condom on. The trick is that the man should keep doing things that keep him aroused, for example kissing and touching his partner.

Another helpful hint is longer foreplay, which can help both partners become more aroused and sustain the erection. The most important thing is to communicate with your partner, telling him or her that losing your erection is due to anxiety and not because you aren’t attracted enough to them.

Australia has a big STI problem right now. A staggering amount of young teenagers, both boys and girls, are testing positive for chlamydia. This bacterial infection does not always show obvious symptoms, but it can cause serious permanent damage to a woman’s reproductive system, which can cause infertility.

These days, oral sex between teenagers has become the most popular sexual activity. The main reason for this is that they believe oral sex is not real sex. They have to be told, preferably with proper sex education at high schools, that they need to use a condom.

There is no longer a need to fell embarrassed when purchasing condoms. Buying condoms online has become very popular, especially with the variety that’s available. They come in all sorts of colours, flavours, shapes and sizes. There are supersensitive varieties, ribbed and studded ones, and even condoms that glow in the dark. There are vibrating condom rings with batteries, condoms with anaesthetic cream inside to help with premature ejaculation and condoms with tingly warm lubricant. Whatever you need, the Internet has got you covered (excuse the pun).