Does Size Matter?
To the average man, his penis is his most important possession. From the time he is born he is fascinated by it and it becomes his best friend. A penis is tied to a man’s self-esteem and is a definition of his manhood.
Many men, however, question the size of their penis, especially the length. Although they may experience anxiety about the size and appearance of their penises at some time in their life, for most of them these feelings will pass, but for others it can be persistent and disabling.
This anxiety can sometimes lead to avoidance of sexual relationships or fear of attending the gym or sports events where other men might see them naked and make them feel ashamed.
On several occasions I have been asked by both men and women what the average size of a penis is.
A review conducted in the UK combined the results from more than fifty international research projects into penis size since 1942 and came up with a general guideline. The ‘average’ size of an erect adult penis is between 14 cm and 16cm in length.
One of these studies asked about 25,000 heterosexual men how they rated the size of their penis and then asked their female partners how they perceived the size. They found that 85 per cent of the women were satisfied with their partner’s penile size, but only 55 per cent of the men were happy with their own size.
The porn industry has contributed to this obsession by featuring only above average sized men who are filmed from flattering angles. Many boys who are receiving a large portion of their sex education these days by looking at porn are getting the wrong message.
Anxiety can lead some men to turn to companies that claim they have treatments and remedies to lengthen the size of the penis. There are pills that contain herbs from around the world, hormone therapies with testosterone or steroids, magnetic or electrical devices to stimulate penis growth, penile suction devices and penis stretchers.
No quality evidence has yet been published to show if any of these treatments actually produce a sustained increase in penis size. Current cosmetic surgical procedures are also largely unproven by research and can carry the risk of serious complications.
It does not matter how often males are told women don’t care that much about the size of their organ, they still don’t believe it. The simple truth is that most women are not able to achieve an orgasm with penetration alone, so there are other ways to please her.
A small penis doesn’t prevent a man from satisfying his partner and being a fabulous lover. He can excel in foreplay, which for most women is their favourite part of sex, and there are obviously many other things a man can do to turn his partner on.
Women like men who are sensitive, caring and willing to communicate. If a man can make a woman feel desirable, she is less likely to be concerned about the size of his penis.
Try to master the art of oral sex, which most women love, or devote time to a sexy massage. Nothing will please her more than you rubbing down her body with some sensual massage oils. Experimenting with sex toys is another method you can use to satisfy each other.
A tip for women: don’t belittle a man’s penis or say anything to indicate that you think it is small, even as a joke. He may take it seriously and if he does, he will be deeply hurt.